Do you ever feel like a stranger in your own home when your stepchildren are present? As a parent, you don't have to be in love with your stepchildren like you are with your own to be a good parent.
Regardless of how you feel about them, children just want to have someone they can:
It's not the child's fault that they're stepchildren. We, as adults, have an obligation to protect and care for our children, whether they are "step" or not.
There are ways to enjoy your family, your blended family, where you feel good, they feel good, where the respect is there and possibly even love.
I was a stepmom to a beautiful girl, who recently turned the big 3 - 0. She's a sweetheart. She grew up living with her mom and stepdad in another state. As a stepparent, I knew it was my responsibility to make it okay for her to talk about her mom - no need for her to feel like she couldn't say what they did that was fun or talk about where they went.
And, since we did not see each other often, before her dad and I married, I explained to her that I knew that she was her dad's first girl, because I wanted her to know that I was not going to block her time with and love from her daddy.
Also, when I was pregnant, I reassured her again, that she would always be her daddy's first little girl (if we had a girl) and first baby (if we had a boy). I praised her for being a wonderful big sister to her baby brother. I loved my stepdaughter and still do. I never wanted her to feel in the way or anything else negative, especially from me.
As your family's relationship coach, I am committed to helping you and your family bridge the gaps, allowing you to create a home you and your children feel good returning to each day.
What if all it took was talking personally with a relationship coach who knows how to help you turn your love life - whether you're dating, in a relationship, or married - around quickly and permanently?
It's what we all want, and you can have it. I know you can feel good about everything going on in your life.
Oftentimes, fear is the basis for finding love, “I don’t want to be alone anymore”, instead of from a place of love, “I feel ready and available for a great relationship.”
It’s easy to say there are no more good men out there, or buy into the lie that you’re “just not meant to have love”.
It’s easy to search out “experts” who promise strategies and “rules” with men, and to try to find out simple solutions to your complex situation – and it feels disappointing when you don’t get the results you want.
I became a love and relationship coach, because I want you to feel happy – I know I can help you with your unique situation in a different way. A way that WORKS, and you can continue to be YOU.
I know how it feels to put the best of what you have into a relationship and feel hurt when your best does not return the same effort or love. I know how it feels to feel thrown away.
I also know what discouraged, devastated and confused feels like, because I was head-over-heels in love with someone. I finally woke up one day and realized that my love wasn't enough for the both of us. I felt failure for not being able to keep the marriage together. I felt no regret for removing myself from a toxic environment. I fought for my son to see healthy living, so he could have a healthy future.
I was raised with both my parents in the home, until my dad passed shortly after my 21st birthday. I saw my parents work together and figure things out, together. They most definitely were not perfect, yet they both showed up for each other, over and over again.
Losing my father set me back, however, the most difficult season in my life was experiencing divorce.
Today, I feel proud of who I am, what I have learned and how I feel.
You don't have to remain where your trauma occurred. You can heal, feel joy and live in victory. My desire is to see families remain happily and lovingly intact. The pain that divorce causes our children is nothing that they should ever have to go through, yet I put my son through it.
My relationship with my son felt strained and painful during and after the divorce. Today, we are wonderful as well. He continues to work through his painful experience and laughing more like he used to. I don't ever want to see another child hurt like my son and so many children have, because of us adults.
Even though I cannot prevent all divorces, nor can I prevent children from experiencing such confusing pain, I can share what I have learned. I can help you be your best you. You deserve to feel good and your children deserve to have happy parents, whether they are together or not.
I can help you forgive yourself and your ex.
We’re all affected by how we were raised and our past relationships. These experiences have held us back and trained us to have limiting beliefs about what we deserve to have.
We begin to ignore and hide who we really are, and feel upset when we don’t feel the love we want.
We start a great, hot relationship with a man, and then feel devastated when he suddenly disappears. Or when the fighting or cheating starts. Men can also experience the same with women,
Beth Ellen Coaching Will Give You the Answers and Solutions You Want If:
…You want to attract the love of your life
…You “hate” dating, and expect all men to let you down.
…You think you’ve met Mr. Right – and he turns out to be just another guy who doesn’t know what he wants
…The man you’re with is withdrawing and withholding his attention and affection from you, starting arguments, backing away from sex, spending more time at work and with friends than with you, and telling you he’s “confused” about what he feels for you.
…You’re starting to feel insecure – even though you started out totally confident while he was still “pursuing” you.
…You’re thinking about him so much of the time, you feel almost like you’re losing yourself and the confidence you used to have.
…You’re married, and feel trapped with a man who has personal “issues” like drinking, depression and family conflicts.
…The logistics of your relationship are difficult – Long Distance, children, a very present “ex,”
…You’re concerned about “other women” in the picture – even his female friends.
These are just some of the problems I can help you with.
Love is all around us, and YOU deserve to be happy.
I can help you stop blocking love, and instead, feel open to the possibilities in ways you’ve never imagined.
I am feeling excited to talk with you.